Sugar Daddy For Me!(?)
January 8, 2007
On my way to work today, I was listening to a radio station in Atlanta talking about a “hot new website” called SugarDaddyForMe.com. It was pretty clear that most of the DJs thought it was a fun little site, pretty damn funny and really harmless. However, this is not your normal dating website. On this site, young girls can find older men who want to “mentor”, pamper or spoil them. One girl had apparently called in and said that she had a “Sugar Daddy” who was paying for her college education, took her out to nice places, bought her expensive gifts and she swore that no sex was ever exchanged for said pleasantries.
Right.
One DJ told of another DJ friend of his who is married with kids, but has a young woman who he “mentors” and “takes care of.” He said it’s not anything he needs to tell his wife about because it’s his money and he swears that nothing physical is going on. He says that it just feels good to “care for a younger woman.”
Yuck. Seriously?
Talk about some seriously whacked out power dynamics in those relationships? Are men (and women - this site is home to wannabe-Sugar Daddy and Mamas alike) so hungry for power that they need to take advantage of and ruin the lives of young men and women. And are there some who are so desperate for love and attention that they actually think relationships like these are healthy? Online dating is one thing. eHarmony is fine, but…this? What do you think about this?
Tags: Sugar-Daddy, Sugar-Daddy-For-Mr
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Adam Walker Cleaveland: I am a 28 yr old 
January 8th, 2007 at 1:02 pm
Yeah, totally weird.But uh…where’s the part where the creepy guys are ruining the youngsters lives? I mean…if someone paid for my college tuition…welll….(wink wink and TOTALLY kidding).
January 8th, 2007 at 1:03 pm
And for the record I’ve been out of college (and grad school for that matter) for a long time….so no, I’m not some slightly screwed-up 19 year old hungry for a pseudo-father’s attention.
January 8th, 2007 at 4:06 pm
I once dated a man who was seven years older than me, and even that was a bit too old for my taste. I’m at the point in my life where I don’t want someone older looking after me - I’ve been out of my parent’s house for four years and finishing my last year of undergrad. It’s the time in my life where I’m solely responsible for my well-being, and I like that. I want to be in a relationship with someone who is going through the same things as I am - learning together instead of someone taking care of me.
In my relationship with the man eight years older than me, it did freak me out that when I was in eighth grade, my boyfriend and his then-girlfriend were having a child. Needless to say, we didn’t date for long.
January 8th, 2007 at 11:54 pm
Hi Adam. Just thought of you and wanted to say hi. hope you’re doing ok and loving your lady.
April 15th, 2007 at 3:46 am
I don’t like that type. If I really want to marry a wealthy man who loves me for who I am, I would try MillionaireMatch.com because the users there are serious about relationships. And the girls who want to find a sugar daddy will be removed from that site by staff of MillionaireMatch.
September 9th, 2007 at 9:34 pm
oh please.. everyone one who said they would never do what sugar daddy is sujesting is full of it,, and the further along they get in life ,, with there goals not reached and note a lot will not be reached .. they will be looking for a sugar daddy..
September 19th, 2007 at 9:22 am
I did meet several men on that site and there was something SERIOUS wrong with each of them. First, thinking of yourself as a “sugar daddy” puts them in a superior position to you to begin with. One man, a bad alcoholic with two marriages behind him and four children,
wanted me to drive almost 2 hours to see him, went out to dinner and then you know what he wanted after that. Second man, totally sweet, asked for nothing, did want to be a mentor and we had a lot of fun, no sex, until his WIFE called me after checking his phone records after he had been gone an unusual amount of time, third guy I met wanted to go to hotel straight away (no thanks), and finally, I thought I had met a nice guy who drove a long distance to see me, first two dates, a lot of fun, no sex, went to nice dinners, and then third time he added drugs to the mix and turned into a monster, telling me to shut up and “you talk too much” and was generally a jerk and obviously a drug abuser. So, I can tell you from real life experience, this is NoT a good site, and
every single one of these men want sex of some sort in exchange for their kindness.
You can always say no, but that is the bottom line. Don’t go there…..
September 26th, 2007 at 9:31 pm
i have been on this site for five months…i consider myself to be above average in wealth , education, life experiences and open-mindedness….the first few weeks i was the one “taken advantage of” by young ladies under 25 years of age…once i “caught on” the site has been to me basically what i wanted it to be and what i believe the originators intended it to be…a source of young ladies that have had life deal then a bad hand and now they realize that the young guys their own age are totally after one thing and when they get it, they are usually gone. Most of the young girls i have met (25) in the last five months have been smart, attractive and burdened with debt, hurt, doubt, low self esteem and usually a child to care for on their own. so if i can solve their problems and make them happy and they can do likewise for me, who is being hurt? Unconventional..yes. Wrong…says who? By the way i have met a wonderful, wonderful person that i would not have otherwise met..thank you, Peter…..and all the wonderful people at sdfm.com!!!!
March 10th, 2008 at 9:47 pm
OMG this site is awful! The woman above is 100% right when she says the men on Sugar Daddy for me have serious,serious “want to be in control” issues. I made a profile there, then a friend of mine bought me a membership with his credit card. I had an OVERWHELMINGLY amount of profile views. Internet stalkers to say the least. Then I would get a bunch of weird weird mail. The men think it is the website for the pretend to be rich and famous. I had a sugar daddy b4 and trust me there is no sex involved. I made that very clear on my profile. The men on that site are out of there mind. The only one that would pay any attention to them is a women that is extremely naive. Most of the men there are a joke. They all want sex. The site should be called hookerforme.com. I only meet a very few normal men on that site then a spammer stole & deleted my profile. I tried to call the site with the number they have listed as a contact for weeks. I never got threw. I wrote them several,several times with no response. They can take your credit card but offer zero customer service while you have to endure the rude,ignorance of a bunch of ego maniacs on that site. You get a bunch of hate mail if you don’t write the men there and kiss up to them and make there ego feel good! I wouldn’t suggest anyone go there. All the men complain about the women on the site.
March 14th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
Well you know girls hence the name Sugar Daddy do you really think that any man really wants to princess status you little brats and get nothing in return. Are you girls out of your minds or is it more like your brains haven’t developed yet and you are far too young to understand the dynamics of men of power and why some seek young girls like you. Sugar Daddy’s are very powerful men who work more hours than there are in a day and are looking for a diamond bracelet to wear about town and you better believe they all want something in return, unless of course they are impotent. You girls might want to think about your own morals where it concerns being little materialist gold diggers riding the coat tails of rich powerful men. What kind of woman OOPS little girl would seek a wealthy older man to begin with? Let me tell you, it’s not one with very healthy self esteem nor is it one with much self respect. I’m a woman, so don’t confuse me with some angry wealthy man.
Moi’
April 25th, 2008 at 11:57 pm
I am a member on Sugardaddy For Me and I have not had one bad experience. I am an attractive 37 year old single woman with a bachelors degree, a job, and a child. I have met 2 wonderful men on this site and YES they do ‘take care of me’ in a sense and NO I do not have sex with them. One is 42 and the other is 55 and they both show me a very high amount of respect. YES they do give me money. YES they do buy me gifts such as jewelry, designer handbags, clothes, things for my home (W/D set), and anything else I want or need and ask for. YES they are affectionate with me. We hug, we kiss. Again, we do not have sex. I admit that I know my ’sugardaddies’ are sexually attracted to me, but they also respect the fact that I do not want to jump into bed with them. I have been spending time with both of them for the past month now and honestly after spending time with these two men I canceled my membership to Match.com because the men I met on that site were the “frauds”. If a woman is going to put herself out there on Sugardaddy For Me, the key is to be super selective about who you decide to meet. It’s worked for me.
April 29th, 2008 at 3:40 pm
Ok this website sugar daddy for me has to be the worst on line web site I have ever been on. First of all I have had a sugar daddy b4 and he was good to me. He bought me implants, co-signed for a brand new jeep, put me on his credit card as authorized to sign ect ect and the list goes on. But this web site number one has some real wack jobs on it. The guys on there are so rude and demanding. Men that ask if they can rape you, want sickning fetishes the list goes on. The worst part about that site is that they have ZERO customer service. They have other members work for the site, and if you by chance are not interested in that person your profile gets deleted and they continue to bill your credit card. They don’t respond top emails and the phone number they have listed is a 800 number that nobody has answer in 4months. It comes up located in South Central LA- I guess no one is going to the office LMAO. Sign up at your own risk and be prepared to cancel your credit card to get them to stop billing you. Also, the guy that created that website is a complete contol freak and treats women like they are second class citizens. I guess that how they do things in the country he comes from the Middle East!
May 18th, 2008 at 5:53 pm
most men are caring and loving. many want to assist you and enjoy the company at the same time. There are plenty of women out there who are dirtier than men, rip men off and some sugardaddies to get ripped off. As one woman said to me ” i know no different- it was the way i was brought up”" as she ripped me off and drove off. So it is not just men ripping off women- most are kind hearted and generous.
June 3rd, 2008 at 8:10 am
Definately a dangerous site, full of crazy men enjoying playing out pathetic fatasies while destroying lives along the way. Don’t go there!